Yes, you know you need self-care but you are extremely busy as it is, right!Adding another task to your to-do list when you already have a lot on your plate, will push you over the edge!
But you know how important it is for you to do something for you, to make you happy.
Yet, you aren’t sure how to fit it in to everything that you have going on.
Well, today, my dear friend, I am going to walk you through how to create an effective self-care action plan in 4 simple steps.
Why A Self Care Action Plan Seems Impossible
Since self-care helps you be the best you, it is not something that can be pushed to the side and not practiced.
But, believe me, I get it!
I get how hard it is to make time for yourself.
I understand how selfish it feels to make yourself a priority when you have to:
- Take care of your kids
- Go to work
- Spend time with your husband, family, and friends!
There are never enough hours in the day to do it all!
And with so much to do and so little time to do it, this means you are always last on the list.
Well, not anymore because today is the day that you are going to take care of yourself!
Why Having A Self Care Action Plan is Super Important
When you are last on the list that means you never get time to do things you love, like before you had kids…and a spouse.
Instead, you are living your life on rinse and repeat.
You get up, go to work, come home, cook dinner, play with the kids, then bed. You do this again and again and again and again.
Living your life on rinse and repeat gets old and it’s simply (excuse my language), annoying as hell.
You wonder what happened to your life.
You wonder if this all that life is meant to be?
You remember the days where you use to be able to do things you loved.
You remember the days when you made time to learn a new hobby or go to a new restaurant, just because.
I can tell you what happened!
You stopped putting your needs first! You stopped putting yourself happiness first.
You stopped having a self care action plan.
Now you are always stressed and overwhelmed and ready to throw in the towel.
I’m sure you want to see a difference, right?
I’m sure you want to figure out how you can love the life you worked so hard to create, right?
So let’s get started.
I’ll share with you how to create an effective self care action plan in 4 simple steps.
How To Create An Effective And Efficient Self Care Action Plan Quickly
Okay, now that you know why a self care action plan seems impossible and why it is super important, it is time to get in the the meat of the article.
It is time to learn exactly how to create a self care action plan.
But, just a general warning, what I am about to tell you, you cannot take with a grain of salt. You actually have to implement these strategies if you want to see a difference in your life!
1. You Have To Realize That Self Care Is Essential
I get it, adulting and being a parent, means that there is so much to do and so many responsibilities you have to take care of that taking time out to do something for yourself seems a bit selfish, to be honest.
You have to understand that self care isn’t selfish.
In fact, it’s essential.
Now, I am going to be blunt…YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE! YOU CANNOT SPEND YOUR ENTIRE LIFE MAKING EVERYONE ELSE HAPPY AROUND YOU!
You don’t want to be on your death bed wishing you did more.
Self care is essential for your happiness!
It is more than okay to take time out for yourself, to do things that make you happy and stress-free.
It is not selfish.
It does not make you a bad parent. In fact, it makes you a great parent because no you are less stressed and happier.
2. You Have To Figure Out What Triggers Your Negative Emotions
Yesterday, I was dicing up some vegetables and picking out my seasonings for this sauce that I was making.
I forgot that I needed to prepare the meat, so I stopped preparing my sauce.
Well, I turn around and find my husband coming into the kitchen and he starts preparing the sauce and the noodles. So, I continued doing what I was doing. I finished up the meatballs and put them in the oven since he was using the stovetop.
To me, it seemed like he was taking over and finishing up dinner. So, I said to my middle child that I was about to braid her hair.
He looks up and asks me aren’t you going to finish?
Whew…this set me off to the point of no return! I literally had to walk away and take a breather.
I had to figure out what made me react in such a way.
By the way I’m not saying I didn’t have a right to be mad. Honestly, if you walk in any woman’s kitchen, and you want to help, you should ask her if she wants it or needs it.
But…I shouldnt have been as upset as I was because he was just trying to help and spend time with me.
I had to leave and reflect. I had to sit down and ask myself why was I so mad.
Was it stemming from something else?
Guess, what, it was!
After taking some time to cool down and reflect, I realized my anger was stemming from not getting enough sleep.
Any time you feel angry, stressed, overwhelmed, ready to give up, you need to sit down and think, why am I having these negative feelings?
What is causing/triggering them?
When you have that figured out, you can move on to step 3 of creating a self-care action plan.
3. Figure Out What Self Care Activities You Need To Counteract Your Negative Emotions
Okay, so now that you know what triggered your negative emotions, you now have to figure out what you need to do to put yourself in a better, happier, mood.
So for the example above, I knew I needed sleep or else it was going to be a bad day for EVERYBODY!
You know the saying happy wife, happy life, okay? Well, this wife was not happy.
So to counteract my negative emotion, I went and took a 30 minute nap. After that I felt great. My mood changed. I was nicer and more understanding.
You have to do the same. Maybe your self-care activity is that you need to take some deep breaths, go for a walk, make a list, clean up, talk to your boss, whatever it may be try it and see if it is effective at counteracting your negative mood.
4. Write Down The Activities That Made You Happy and Create “Happy Files”
Once you try an activity and notice that your mood has changed for the better, write it down the specific activity that you did to get that desired result.
Make sure you keep a list of self-care activities that worked for you. Write down what mood you were in and why followed by what worked to uplift your mood.
Doing this allows you to keep a record of how to make yourself happy. It allows you to take corrective action in a shorter period of time because you know what works.
In fact, I do the same thing. I write down what improved my mood so when I feel the same way again, I can pull myself out of it. I call this my happy files.
In my happy files, I have activities, kind words that people said, pictures, youtube videos, gifs, inspirational quotes, anything that made me smile or laugh when I was feeling down. I keep it on my cell phone, so I have it always.
Oh, by the way, I have certain people that I can call to help me laugh too. If you want to do the same, make sure you reach out to the person you want to add and ask if it is okay that you call them when you are in a funk. Doing this gives them the option to say no and shows that you care enough about their mental health too.
The Last Thing You Need To Know About Creating A Self Care Action Plan
Creating a self-care action plan doesn’t have to be super complicated. In fact, going through these four steps is all you need.
But, the part that most people fail at is…taking action.
If you read this and don’t implement it, then you won’t have an effective self-care action plan.
In fact, to help you and encourage you to get started, I created a FREE self-care activity list that you can use in step 3 and step 4 of this list.
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Remember Love Always and Spread Bliss,