Setting goals is not as easy as people make it.
Yes, you know people who can sit down and come up with a goal and go after it, but that’s not you.
A goal is not something you take lightly.
You know that setting a goal and going after it, will affect you and your family.
You will have to make time and shift your priorities.
Some things will take a back seat and your goal will take a front seat.
You take goals seriously because they not only affect your life, but it affects the time you have to take from the things you love like your family and friends.
So to help you set goals, I am going to tell you the best, easy way to set goals so you can stop:
- weed out the goals that don’t match your purpose,
- set goals that align with your life
To do this you have to first evaluate. So let me explain.
First things first to help you set goals the best easy way, you need to evaluate.
You have to figure out where you are in your life and where you want to go.
You need to figure this out because if you are building goals based on your past and not where you are right now in life, you are definitely wasting time!
For example, one of the hardest things for me to let go of was my career.
I always wanted to be that power woman in suits and driving a fancy car, with a bob haircut and wearing stilettos
Well, that never came to be.
I had to quit my job after having my 3rd little.
For a while, I considered going back to school to become a physician assistant but that meant I would need to be in school full-time.
This defeated the purpose of me quitting.
I would need to put the kids into daycare. But I had to quit my job because I couldn’t afford to pay for daycare.
So my goals had to shift.
I focused on where I was right now and made a goal based on that.
To help you do the same, you need to write down your current situation.
If you are writing a goal that pertains to your career, then write down exactly where you are at in your career.
If your goal pertains to your marriage, write down exactly where you are at and so forth.
Once you have your current situation written down, then you have to write where you want to be.
Doing this shows where you are right now and helps you determine where you want to go.
I know, I know, that I told you not to look at your past but in this case, but when it comes to reflecting, you need to.
Reflect on your past only for one reason.
Let me explain, I want you to think back to when you last accomplished a goal.
I want you to think about what you did that helped you accomplish your goal, and what you did that didn’t help you.
Make a list of what you did that worked and what you did that didn’t work.
Things that worked in the past, to help you achieve your goals, You should repeat for this goal.
Things that didn’t work, I want you to avoid.
Doing this will help you avoid unnecessary mistakes and get you to attain your goal faster.
Goals That Align With Your Purpose
Nothing sucks more than wasting your time on a goal that does not align with your purpose.
Okay, let me expound.
To see if your goals align with your purpose, there are three different ways. (Source)
- You can simply ask yourself if this goal you are working on aligns with your purpose
- Listen to your intuition. When you feel like working on your goal is causing you unnecessary stress, success is extremely difficult, and you have no joy, then you know your gut is telling you this goal ain’t it.
- Go deeper into your goal. Ask yourself if I achieve this goal what will I have that I don’t have now. When you have your answer, ask yourself again and again until you get to the root of your desire. When you get to the root, figure out how you can go about obtaining that root to make sure you have a goal that aligns with your purpose.
Goals That Are Worthy
A lot of times when you set a goal, you set a goal that sounds good and one that will benefit your life.
But, have you ever sat down and figured out if you are worthy of that goal?
Let me explain.
The goals you set need to stir something inside of you.
They can’t be goals you know someone else wants that goal for you.
They have to be goals that make you want to get up in the morning and work on them.
They have to excite and ignite you.
They have to make you a better human being in one way or another.
Your goals have to be worthy of you.
They need to be worth the sacrifices you are going to have to make to achieve them.
If not, then your goal is not worthy.
Make Your Goals Smart
To make sure you are on the right path when it comes to your goals, you have to make sure that your goals are smart. (Insert Link)
What I mean by that, is that you need to make sure your goals are:
Making your goals smart, allow you to be more detailed about your goals.
Making your goals smart allows you to figure out how to go about your goals the right way.
The hardest part of having a goal is putting the action behind it to achieve it.
Although it is the hardest part, it is also the part that you need most.
If you don’t put any action behind your goal it will only remain a dream or worse, a regret.
So, make sure you have an action plan to help keep you focused and on track.
An action plan allows you to break your goal down into smaller steps that lead you to your overall big goal.
Just an FYI, these smaller steps need to be specific so that you aren’t taking some missteps along the way.
When you have a goal you’re going to make some sacrifices no matter what.
This could be sacrifices of time, money, etc.
You may not be able to go out with friends and family, you may have to slow down your spending so you have the tools you need to make your goal a success.
Whatever it may be, you need to make sure that you prioritize your day so that you work on your goal every single day until you accomplish it.
Adjust Your Goal Accordingly
So you have a deadline you want to achieve your goal by and you’re sticking to it by any means necessary, right?
Well, what I want you to know is that we are living in this thing called life, so stuff happens that we can’t control.
This means that your deadline doesn’t have to be the end all be all.
For example, I don’t want you to get bent out of shape and feel like your goal isn’t for you because you haven’t been able to reach your deadline.
If legit things in life pushed your deadline back, it’s okay to be flexible with your goal and adjust it accordingly.
Being busy means you have little time to spare.
Your mind is wandering about the 50 million things you need to do at any given moment.
This means when you carve out time to work on your goal, you need to focus.
Put away your phone.
Turn it on do not disturb, and get to work.
Make sure your kids and spouse know that you need this uninterrupted time so that you can get your work done.
Make sure you have the 3 tasks that you need to get done during this time.
Whatever you need to do, do it.
Focus and get it done.
Not going to lie, I am iffy on having an accountability partner.
I am a huge believer in never telling your goals.
I believe that your results should speak for themselves.
But if you feel like you can’t do your goal alone and you need someone to hold you accountable, then, by all means, get you an accountability partner.
But not just anyone.
I am talking about someone who is dedicated to you.
For example, when you don’t answer your phone at 5 am to wake up, they will drive to your house.
You need someone who won’t give up on you because their life got in the way.
You need someone you can air your frustrations out with and they won’t coddle you.
Instead tell you, “I’m glad you got that off your chest, but get back to work.”
If you have someone in your life like this, then, by all means, know that you are indeed fortunate and ask them to be your accountability partner.
Write Your Goal Down
You are 42% more likely to achieve your goal if you write it down!
So, what are you waiting for?
Go write down your goal right now and place it somewhere will you will see it multiple times per day.
Write down roadblocks and solutions to them.
When going after your goal, there are going to be multiple problems that you are going to face.
The best way to go about this is not to face them head-on but to sit down and brainstorm the problems you will encounter beforehand.
This way, when they show up, you know what to do when they come.
Yup, you don’t do this enough at all.
I know you look very successful on paper but you don’t feel like you are.
A lot of that deals with you not celebrating your wins.
Every win you have, big or small, you should celebrate.
Now, I’m not talking about going out and getting wasted or buying a car.
You can give yourself a round of applause or pat on the back.
Have that sip of wine or bite of chocolate.
Celebrate by taking a nap.
Whatever makes you feel good, do it!
You have to be happy for you when you’re winning just like you are happy for others.
The Last Thing You Need To Know About the Best, Easy, Way To Set Goals
So there you have it.
If you are ready to set goals and knock them out of the park, then take these best easy ways to set goals and run with them.
Once you have a goal that is for you, it’s time to make it reality by accomplishing it!
I want to see you win just as bad as you want to win!
But remember, setting goals is the easy part.
Taking action to achieve these goals is the hardest part.
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